Is there truly a Miss, Mrs. or Mr. Right?
More of my random thoughts.
Some may ask the question, "Why am I always choosing the wrong person to be in a relationship with?" My question to that question is, "Are you sure you're not choosing the Right Wrong Person?"
Are we seeking different flavors of wrong, thinking that the wrongness is right, because we are dealing with demons within and gravitate to those with similar demons that compliment us? Confusing huh? Such is love.
One would think to seek the love of the person that knows how to give the gift of oneself without the expectation of something in return. However you must know yourself well enough to understand that gift, not reject the gift choosing the art of re-gifting. Not only should we know ourselves, but learn what we want and what we don't want. Perhaps stop being in love with the idea of being in love, falling in love with a facsimile thereof.
We view him/her as our soul mate because we have shared an intimate connection prior to evaluating the future. Think about this, is the one you see as your soul mate your goal mate? In other words, do you share common interests, common goals, chemistry and compatibility? Do you have admiration and respect for him/her or are you just impressed by them?
Keep in mind as you ponder...admiration is to regard with wonder; wherein being impressed is the act of drawing attention. A Mercedes or a Bentley Continental GT is impressive. A woman or man loving God, always smiling, working a full time job, a part time job, going to school part-time and holding it down at home for the family is to be admired!
~~~Skin I'm In~~~
Saturday, January 21, 2012
Monday, January 16, 2012
Expressions of Self-Random Thoughts
Volcanic lava
Warm, overflowing and electric
Rising with the belief that each day will be better
Dreams awakened
By losing oneself in forever
The edge of morning is near
My soul is aching to be
Somewhere other than here
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Church or Chutch II
Scenario #1
Female high school graduate; hereby known as Sunny. Grows up being nourished in the church. Sunny encounters David, a young minister at a church convention. They share their experiences in Christ and over a span of 6 months they break bread, attend church fall in love and marry. David was slotted to be in the area for approximately 8 months, so after his marriage to Sunny, he advised they were moving. Moving back to his home of record. Sunny was far from thrilled with this decision as this move would take her away from her family. Sunny expressed her opinion of the matter only to realize David had absolutely NO desire in hearing Sunny's opinion. David slapped Sunny advising her that she needed to be submissive. Being contrary was not an option. Sunny being young and naive agreed.
Scenario #2
Tasha raised in church. Grows up in a struggling household. Pays her way through college, moves away, finds a church home and is befriended by a young minister, hereby named Charles. Tasha and Charles spend endless days together; their relationship is no longer platonic and Tasha is pregnant. Tasha has been with no one else but Charles. Tasha advises Charles of the baby, Charles tells Tasha to get an abortion. Arguments erupt because Tasha wants her baby. During these arguments it is disclosed that Charles is married to another member of the church. Charles' wife is in Afghanistan on her second tour and will be returning in 4 months. Charles tells Tasha that he wants nothing to do with the baby and if she chooses not to abort then she will be raising the child on her own. Charles also advises Tasha that if she sheds any light as to who the child's father is, he will cause her bodily harm.
Two issues weigh heavily with these scenarios.
1- Religion/Christian views on abortion &
2-Christian women & domestic violence
Scenario #1
Some teachings would explain that spousal abuse should be dealt with by temporary separation in conjunction with church marriage counseling. Marriage counseling somehow designed to bring forth a reconciliation.
--My question..are the church counselors knowledgeable enough in the cycle of domestic violence?
Scenario #2
The Bible states 'Thou shalt not kill' --Exodus 20:13
Surely our worth as a human being is not dependent upon how far we are in life.
--My question..as a minister, leader or teacher of God's word are you practicing what you preach or manipulating to oblige your act of cheating?
More to express at a later date. In the meantime feel free to share your voice.
Female high school graduate; hereby known as Sunny. Grows up being nourished in the church. Sunny encounters David, a young minister at a church convention. They share their experiences in Christ and over a span of 6 months they break bread, attend church fall in love and marry. David was slotted to be in the area for approximately 8 months, so after his marriage to Sunny, he advised they were moving. Moving back to his home of record. Sunny was far from thrilled with this decision as this move would take her away from her family. Sunny expressed her opinion of the matter only to realize David had absolutely NO desire in hearing Sunny's opinion. David slapped Sunny advising her that she needed to be submissive. Being contrary was not an option. Sunny being young and naive agreed.
Scenario #2
Tasha raised in church. Grows up in a struggling household. Pays her way through college, moves away, finds a church home and is befriended by a young minister, hereby named Charles. Tasha and Charles spend endless days together; their relationship is no longer platonic and Tasha is pregnant. Tasha has been with no one else but Charles. Tasha advises Charles of the baby, Charles tells Tasha to get an abortion. Arguments erupt because Tasha wants her baby. During these arguments it is disclosed that Charles is married to another member of the church. Charles' wife is in Afghanistan on her second tour and will be returning in 4 months. Charles tells Tasha that he wants nothing to do with the baby and if she chooses not to abort then she will be raising the child on her own. Charles also advises Tasha that if she sheds any light as to who the child's father is, he will cause her bodily harm.
Two issues weigh heavily with these scenarios.
1- Religion/Christian views on abortion &
2-Christian women & domestic violence
Scenario #1
Some teachings would explain that spousal abuse should be dealt with by temporary separation in conjunction with church marriage counseling. Marriage counseling somehow designed to bring forth a reconciliation.
--My question..are the church counselors knowledgeable enough in the cycle of domestic violence?
Scenario #2
The Bible states 'Thou shalt not kill' --Exodus 20:13
Surely our worth as a human being is not dependent upon how far we are in life.
--My question..as a minister, leader or teacher of God's word are you practicing what you preach or manipulating to oblige your act of cheating?
More to express at a later date. In the meantime feel free to share your voice.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Random 'Family' Thoughts
Family - defined many ways.
1- a basic social unit consisting of parents and children
2- any group of persons closely related by blood
3- all those considered descendants of a biologically related ancestor
The list goes on; but every one's view of family differs no matter how similar in meaning the dictionary determines.
What the dictionary does not provide detail on, is the FAMILY that just doesn't exist. Let me elaborate the ideal family, in my eyes only exists in fairy tales. Father, Mother, Sister(s), Brother(s), doting grandparents, aunts and uncles. Minor arguments between Mother & Father, nothing earth shattering. You have the dog, cat, picket fence, 2 cars or perhaps the mini van for the soccer mom, parents that show for all of their children's extra-curricular events, children graduate from high school go off to college and come home on their breaks to two parents still in love with each other and their childhood home is still serene.
Ah ha!! Let's get to the real deal. You have the 'Soul Food' family wherein family sleeps with another family members husband. Some of the family is quite affluent or they manage their money well while other members constantly have their hands out. Or you have the Osborne's, Whitney Houston/Bobby Browns, Lindsey Lohans & Brittney Spears of the world...I shouldn't have to elaborate any further with those examples. Then we have the Family that Preys & Prays. Lets not forget the family that alienates. I guess in the dictionary whether it's Merriam Webster or Dictionary.Com, the definition for these examples would be DYSFUNCTIONAL.
I think the family that Alienates does just as much damage as the drug addictions & infidelity if not more. When you start off in life experiencing family one way, adoring them and not wanting to trade your once known knowledge of family for anything in the world to always wondering 'Why?' you question yourself. Things like 'Why am I the last to know?' or 'What did I do to them to deserve this type of treatment?' or 'How come they no longer love me?'
It's a given that we all have a purpose. God gives and takes away. However it is sometimes difficult to comprehend that he removes people from our lives in order for us to grow. We need to nurture our seed and reap the benefits of new growth.
1- a basic social unit consisting of parents and children
2- any group of persons closely related by blood
3- all those considered descendants of a biologically related ancestor
The list goes on; but every one's view of family differs no matter how similar in meaning the dictionary determines.
What the dictionary does not provide detail on, is the FAMILY that just doesn't exist. Let me elaborate the ideal family, in my eyes only exists in fairy tales. Father, Mother, Sister(s), Brother(s), doting grandparents, aunts and uncles. Minor arguments between Mother & Father, nothing earth shattering. You have the dog, cat, picket fence, 2 cars or perhaps the mini van for the soccer mom, parents that show for all of their children's extra-curricular events, children graduate from high school go off to college and come home on their breaks to two parents still in love with each other and their childhood home is still serene.
Ah ha!! Let's get to the real deal. You have the 'Soul Food' family wherein family sleeps with another family members husband. Some of the family is quite affluent or they manage their money well while other members constantly have their hands out. Or you have the Osborne's, Whitney Houston/Bobby Browns, Lindsey Lohans & Brittney Spears of the world...I shouldn't have to elaborate any further with those examples. Then we have the Family that Preys & Prays. Lets not forget the family that alienates. I guess in the dictionary whether it's Merriam Webster or Dictionary.Com, the definition for these examples would be DYSFUNCTIONAL.
I think the family that Alienates does just as much damage as the drug addictions & infidelity if not more. When you start off in life experiencing family one way, adoring them and not wanting to trade your once known knowledge of family for anything in the world to always wondering 'Why?' you question yourself. Things like 'Why am I the last to know?' or 'What did I do to them to deserve this type of treatment?' or 'How come they no longer love me?'
It's a given that we all have a purpose. God gives and takes away. However it is sometimes difficult to comprehend that he removes people from our lives in order for us to grow. We need to nurture our seed and reap the benefits of new growth.
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