Friends v Frenemies

Do friends hurt relationships? 
Do friends have our best interest at heart?
In new relationships do we cast our FRIENDS aside to appease our NEW significant?

In my observations I have noticed, when two individuals are NEW in their relationship they tend to ignore outside elements further known as friends.  Is this proper? That may come with a 50/50 answer.  Some may find that there is nothing wrong with it; others may feel you should not alienate your friends.  I am inclined to not alienate the friend whether male or female.  True friends are in your life and heart no matter what. The friends were there first essentially and are an extension of you. Understanding, that should things progress with you and the significant, the significant will also then be a part of you. Said friend will also understand the need to place a limitation on the amount of time spent without any loss of identity on your behalf. 

Friends that have been around forever so to speak may genuinely care; however you may find an interest that far surpasses that of a Platonic relationship. When that is discovered are you prepared to handle it? You may also find the long time friend trying to advise you of what's right and wrong in your NEW relationship based upon their past experiences.  Would this information be noteworthy? Food for thought.  It's possible it may be noteworthy; however everyone's reactions to actions are different. That friend's adverse experience could be the very thing that makes your toes curl placing you on cloud nine and that wonderful feeling of ecstasy your friend experienced, may be the very thing that makes you want to regurgitate.

The long time friend crossing the Platonic Relationship Boundaries could have very well been a great friend, that turns(ed) lethal.  Should your time be consumed with your significant other and you alienate the long term friend you may find when you finally reach out to them, you're in hostile territory.  Your friend has been hurt and may blatantly try to destroy your relationship if allowed.  It's juvenile I know, but it happens. We must keep in mind the friends heart typically wants what the heart wants.  Over ruling what is essentially right.   

In a nutshell, Yes, friends can and do hurt relationships if we are not careful, even if we know in our heart of hearts that they have our best interest in mind.  When the boundaries are crossed and the hurt occurs our friend becomes our frenemy.