I read a post from someone whom I am enamored with the content of his tweets. This post revolved around barbershop talk and read "Black Women spend a lot of time pretending that everything is okay and suppressing entirely too much....praising their troubles instead of acknowledging their toxicity." ~~I AM~~
My notebook an infinite canvas of thought. However only a few have made their way to this page.
Oftentimes as black women we carry ourselves with determination and a convincing sense of being extraordinary or exceptional. This is regardless of the treatment received from others. Some may say that we are accomplished however if an in depth view is taken, we have yet to conquer ourselves. We are seen with an 'S' stamped on our chest, underneath the flirty dresses, boardroom suits, dress blues and scrubs. Is this 'S' for Superwoman/Strength/Independence? Possibly. Our strength has been galvanized with a coat of armor, shielding us from the pain and deprivation of an authentic and joyful life. In short we are portrayed as a capable person, someone who can reliably provide for others emotionally and financially. Such virtues leave you with a set of irrevocable oppositions out of which we live our lives. We struggle with being both strong and having needs of our own. Wherein lies the dilemma of strength....to choose the appearances and remain unknown or choose TRUTH and risk being disregarded by others. We often choose the Unknown.
The Unknown---Media stereotypes of black women-the angry black activist; the promiscuous unwed mother, the take no-shit, more man than woman black bi@!* accused of being both unfeminine and oversexed at the same time.
The Truth - It is 'OKAY' for things not to be OKAY. It is OKAY not to fall prey to the one dimensional view. We do not have to invest our lives in the appearance of invulnerability. We as Black Women, We as Women, ARE EXTRAORDINARY AND EXCEPTIONAL.
~~Skin I'm In~~
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
The Smell Of Nostalgia
As I embrace the brief time spent with family so many childhood memories come to the surface. I grew up so very blessed. I may not have had designer clothes, shoes or the white picket fence, but I did have family that loved me and I them.
A lot of us have moved away from where we grew up, but the memories whether good or bad do not move away.
Eureka Park was my back yard. The cut through to get to the homes of a few friends as well as going to the homes of my Aunt's, Uncle's and Grandparent's. Eureka Park the place where summer camp took on new shapes. The Rec Center where I first busted my butt trying to roller skate. Chain link swing sets and hard core merry go rounds. Tennis courts and those weekends when you heard church revival.
Climbing the Cherry Tree at my Grandparents house, hanging out in their basement. As a child the basement presented so many adventures as my grandparents kept so many things for me to get into. Sliding down the steps, the railing didn't work in my favor. My Grandma's Rice Pudding...umph..the best! And the Pantry you could hide in if you tried.
Hot Summer Days at Washington Park Pool cutting through the path off of 10th street behind Addison.....All I can hear..."Cutie Pie,You're The Reason Why. I love you so.....". Matter of fact so many songs of summer...."Party People, Party People......Socialize, Get Down, Let Your Soul Lead The Way....", "Jamaica Funk is what it is....Let it get into you", "Thighs High, I Wanna Grip Your Hips and Move". Racing friends and relatives up and down the street. Truly don't get caught by the street light.
So many places and things evoke so many memories. Lakeside Amusement Park, Woolworths Downtown Roanoke, Pete's Deli, New Yorker Delicatessen(of course), Mill Mountain Zoo & Ruby, 8th Street Grill( got to have a hot smoke), Chuck's Seafood, Highs Ice Cream, the dances at Booker T. Sweetheart Ball's at Ruffner, Talent Shows as Fleming, Fairystone, Claytor's Lake, Carvin's Cove....oooohhh M.D.20/20, Thunderbird(thank you Franwill Crew, you know who you are) and Mr. Perry's Store just to name a few. Keeping it really simple, waking up on the weekends knowing there were some things that didn't and wouldn't change. Errands with Mom, Saturday Mornings and Church All Day Sunday!
Many may not be familiar with the scent of where I'm steppin' others of course know the fragrance well.
The Smell Of Nostalgia keeps the memories so vivid. Peace.
~~Skin I'm In~~
A lot of us have moved away from where we grew up, but the memories whether good or bad do not move away.
Eureka Park was my back yard. The cut through to get to the homes of a few friends as well as going to the homes of my Aunt's, Uncle's and Grandparent's. Eureka Park the place where summer camp took on new shapes. The Rec Center where I first busted my butt trying to roller skate. Chain link swing sets and hard core merry go rounds. Tennis courts and those weekends when you heard church revival.
Climbing the Cherry Tree at my Grandparents house, hanging out in their basement. As a child the basement presented so many adventures as my grandparents kept so many things for me to get into. Sliding down the steps, the railing didn't work in my favor. My Grandma's Rice Pudding...umph..the best! And the Pantry you could hide in if you tried.
Hot Summer Days at Washington Park Pool cutting through the path off of 10th street behind Addison.....All I can hear..."Cutie Pie,You're The Reason Why. I love you so.....". Matter of fact so many songs of summer...."Party People, Party People......Socialize, Get Down, Let Your Soul Lead The Way....", "Jamaica Funk is what it is....Let it get into you", "Thighs High, I Wanna Grip Your Hips and Move". Racing friends and relatives up and down the street. Truly don't get caught by the street light.
So many places and things evoke so many memories. Lakeside Amusement Park, Woolworths Downtown Roanoke, Pete's Deli, New Yorker Delicatessen(of course), Mill Mountain Zoo & Ruby, 8th Street Grill( got to have a hot smoke), Chuck's Seafood, Highs Ice Cream, the dances at Booker T. Sweetheart Ball's at Ruffner, Talent Shows as Fleming, Fairystone, Claytor's Lake, Carvin's Cove....oooohhh M.D.20/20, Thunderbird(thank you Franwill Crew, you know who you are) and Mr. Perry's Store just to name a few. Keeping it really simple, waking up on the weekends knowing there were some things that didn't and wouldn't change. Errands with Mom, Saturday Mornings and Church All Day Sunday!
Many may not be familiar with the scent of where I'm steppin' others of course know the fragrance well.
The Smell Of Nostalgia keeps the memories so vivid. Peace.
~~Skin I'm In~~
Control
When you are in a relationship or what is deemed to be a relatioship it should not be treated as a dictatorship by either party. There are qualities in each that should compliment the other. Unfortunately sometimes we are unable to find that grassy median.
Something to ask yourself about your partner. Do they help you to live a better and healthier life? Be clear on your thoughts before you answer. What you may think, are the intentions that have love screaming from all angles, could very well be an unintentional deceptive schemer.
Two Types of Relationship Controllers
The violent and physically abusive and the caring, sensitive one whom controls you emotionally. The latter is not always the obvious one. They do not necessarily dominate you, but will still find a way to cut your legs out from under you. Don't be mistaken or caught off guard. Both types can be rolled up into one person. Scary I know.
You may never know you are with an emotionally controlling person until it's too late. You can be easily deceived as they are not bad people. They have insecurities and are generally possessive, forgetting where to draw the line or creating their own for you.
A Few Signs To Watch Out For
They need to be informed of all you do. They may become agitated if you don't check in to their specifications. They will blow that cell phone up if you don't respond quick enough. Back in the day it would have been a 911 page.
They don't like it when you have fun without them. You may want to discuss your activities and how wonderful they were and you will be addressed with perhaps a grunt or "That's Nice"
They are manipulative. Constantly trying to make decisions for you. Choosing what they want you to eat while out at dinner. "He/She will have the Escargot drizzled with a White Wine Sauce, Asparagus Spears and Wild Rice". You cringe because you know at this very moment you would much rather be at Five Guys getting that juicy hamburger drenched in green peppers, onions, mushrooms, cheese and a hint of grease.
They create their own rules while imposing completely different rules upon you. We all know a household that plays Spades has their own House Rules.
They disapprove when you spend time with friends. Your friends are a bad influence on you and they want to choose your friends for you or even be your one and only friend. "If you play with Suzy I'm not playing with you anymore. Suzy has the cooties".
Your life now revolves around them or so you think. Their happiness becomes yours, their wants become yours. Your identity has become non-existent.
I may have made light of these signs; however these signs are reality. And the reality is..Relationships shouldn't change who you are as a person. Only you should be able to change you. The relationship should provide you with an added path that leads you to additional growth.
~~~Skin I'm In~~~
Monday, November 5, 2012
Eyes Of Knowing
This isn't so much an eloquent piece, but it is nonetheless thoughts within.
When you as a friend, an innocent by stander, family member or just a lover of mankind are exposed to others that may be experiencing their world being turned upside down, you are typically one that will go out of your way to offer assistance. Providing whatever charitable donations you are able to give for the cause. You extend a hand to help in the time of need or you are there to just listen and offer support. When your friend or family member etc tells you that they have a terminal illness, whether it be any form of cancer, a rare disease or even an incurable disease your heart goes out to them. I can speak for myself and wish that I could act as John Coffee did in the Green Mile and remove their illness with a touch. I know I'm not God, nor have I been granted any healing powers but I do wish sometimes I was able to help so many in need.
The tables turn and WOW instead of you receiving that dreadful news about a loved one, you receive THAT news about you possibly having cancer or you have been diagnosed with an incurable disease. The waves of emotions flooding your very being. Emotions are greedy little suckers. They take you and beat you down like you stole something, then they have the nerve to ask "Is that ALL you've got?" One part of you wants to say 'yes' another part sits in limbo trying to absorb what has just occurred. Asking the questions, How?, Why?, Why Me?, What did I do to deserve this? Or thoughts of "This doesn't run in my family". The list grows and the answers seem out of reach.
Day 1 through as many as it takes. Appointment after appointment. The poking and prodding with needles, answering the same questions over and over. Then trying to deal with scheduling time off from work without the entire company knowing your business. Hiding the tears from those closest to you. Especially when you have set this precedence of being 'The Rock'. But all you want to do is crawl into a ball in the corner and cry. Its funny you have to schedule times to cry. Shower seems to work best. The thought of the illness is chipping away at what you thought to be 'you'. You feel you are no longer the POSITIVE FORCE. However you are trying to excercise your faith, but as humans yes we falter at times. We are continued works in progress.
With emotions still running rampant, you wish like hell there would be a definitive answer just as quickly as the issue was found. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. We need to run more test. We need to schedule surgery,(please have someone with you for support) then we have to run more test. Draw more blood, obtaining a complete CBC(complete blood count). We should know something in 5 - 10 days. We need a second & third opinion just to be sure your test results are not a false positive. What the hell is a false positive? We're sorry but Dr. So n So is on vacation for the entire month of October; however we do have another associate, Dr. Quackenstein, whom is new to the practice if you would like to consult with them.
The day of knowing. As it would stand you want someone with you during the time of knowing. THAT day is finally here. A day of celebration and/or acceptance. You have already mentally prepared yourself for either answer. If its necessary to use a cane and a walker. It's going to be a fashionable one. May have to invest in one to coordinate with the outfits...got to coordinate. If chemo is necessary...short hair has been maintained for at least 20 years now. If the hair has to be a little shorter, it will be an added fashion statement. Short hair rocks people. We are not our hair.
Do not perceive my above statements as being non-caring or viewing these things lightly. It is me still remaining positive, that ROCK, though part of me has been chipped away. I'm still here with others to speak on it as well. For this I am grateful to GOD and those around me whom are constant mountains of love and stability. For those that have already transitioned their testimony should still be fresh in our minds and hearts, we just need to view the bigger picture.
I guess in this entry I just want to share that we need to stop the bickering amongst family and friends. Enjoy those that make you happy, accept those that don't because we are all God's children. We know not the time nor the hour. What we should keep in mind always is that each of us has a purpose. A purpose not always defined by books or what knowledge we THINK we have. You can't spend your every waking hour trying to please and live how you think others would have you to or in fear of what others may think. The choice and opportunity is yours. You just have to want it, acknowledge it, allow it to work for you and you for it.
For all(men & women) please make sure you obtain your yearly check ups. Men...its better to get that cough out of the way now instead of waiting until its too late. Ladies...self breast exams and Mammograms a MUST. We have to know our bodies and be aware of when things don't seem quite right. Overcome the fear of knowing. Not knowing not only hurts you, but those around you.
Skin I'm In
When you as a friend, an innocent by stander, family member or just a lover of mankind are exposed to others that may be experiencing their world being turned upside down, you are typically one that will go out of your way to offer assistance. Providing whatever charitable donations you are able to give for the cause. You extend a hand to help in the time of need or you are there to just listen and offer support. When your friend or family member etc tells you that they have a terminal illness, whether it be any form of cancer, a rare disease or even an incurable disease your heart goes out to them. I can speak for myself and wish that I could act as John Coffee did in the Green Mile and remove their illness with a touch. I know I'm not God, nor have I been granted any healing powers but I do wish sometimes I was able to help so many in need.
The tables turn and WOW instead of you receiving that dreadful news about a loved one, you receive THAT news about you possibly having cancer or you have been diagnosed with an incurable disease. The waves of emotions flooding your very being. Emotions are greedy little suckers. They take you and beat you down like you stole something, then they have the nerve to ask "Is that ALL you've got?" One part of you wants to say 'yes' another part sits in limbo trying to absorb what has just occurred. Asking the questions, How?, Why?, Why Me?, What did I do to deserve this? Or thoughts of "This doesn't run in my family". The list grows and the answers seem out of reach.
Day 1 through as many as it takes. Appointment after appointment. The poking and prodding with needles, answering the same questions over and over. Then trying to deal with scheduling time off from work without the entire company knowing your business. Hiding the tears from those closest to you. Especially when you have set this precedence of being 'The Rock'. But all you want to do is crawl into a ball in the corner and cry. Its funny you have to schedule times to cry. Shower seems to work best. The thought of the illness is chipping away at what you thought to be 'you'. You feel you are no longer the POSITIVE FORCE. However you are trying to excercise your faith, but as humans yes we falter at times. We are continued works in progress.
With emotions still running rampant, you wish like hell there would be a definitive answer just as quickly as the issue was found. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. We need to run more test. We need to schedule surgery,(please have someone with you for support) then we have to run more test. Draw more blood, obtaining a complete CBC(complete blood count). We should know something in 5 - 10 days. We need a second & third opinion just to be sure your test results are not a false positive. What the hell is a false positive? We're sorry but Dr. So n So is on vacation for the entire month of October; however we do have another associate, Dr. Quackenstein, whom is new to the practice if you would like to consult with them.
The day of knowing. As it would stand you want someone with you during the time of knowing. THAT day is finally here. A day of celebration and/or acceptance. You have already mentally prepared yourself for either answer. If its necessary to use a cane and a walker. It's going to be a fashionable one. May have to invest in one to coordinate with the outfits...got to coordinate. If chemo is necessary...short hair has been maintained for at least 20 years now. If the hair has to be a little shorter, it will be an added fashion statement. Short hair rocks people. We are not our hair.
Do not perceive my above statements as being non-caring or viewing these things lightly. It is me still remaining positive, that ROCK, though part of me has been chipped away. I'm still here with others to speak on it as well. For this I am grateful to GOD and those around me whom are constant mountains of love and stability. For those that have already transitioned their testimony should still be fresh in our minds and hearts, we just need to view the bigger picture.
I guess in this entry I just want to share that we need to stop the bickering amongst family and friends. Enjoy those that make you happy, accept those that don't because we are all God's children. We know not the time nor the hour. What we should keep in mind always is that each of us has a purpose. A purpose not always defined by books or what knowledge we THINK we have. You can't spend your every waking hour trying to please and live how you think others would have you to or in fear of what others may think. The choice and opportunity is yours. You just have to want it, acknowledge it, allow it to work for you and you for it.
For all(men & women) please make sure you obtain your yearly check ups. Men...its better to get that cough out of the way now instead of waiting until its too late. Ladies...self breast exams and Mammograms a MUST. We have to know our bodies and be aware of when things don't seem quite right. Overcome the fear of knowing. Not knowing not only hurts you, but those around you.
Skin I'm In
Sunday, August 26, 2012
Chemistry
The intense touch of sensuality
Across my neck
The addiction to your silhouette
The scent of
Blackberry Nectar
The scent of
Blackberry Nectar
As you sail
The lingering electricity
From the touch of your fingertips
The kiss of life
Found in your eyes
No words uttered
Only Chemistry
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Thoughts of the 24 to 30 Year Olds
During an impromptu interview or conversation if you will with a number of men and women ages 24 to 30. I gathered information regarding what they sought, when choosing a mate and what their perspective was on how a relationship between two should be.
Now I must preface this by saying I am exposed to so many individuals with a multitude of personalities. Quite a few of them are in their early to late 20's. I might add, I'm not always pleased with what I encounter. You have your classic, pants hanging off their butts (both male & female), pajamas in public with bedroom slippers, breasts hanging out, dirty shirts, cursing, wreaking of last weeks alcohol benge, sex, cigarettes and down right disrespectful. Just keeping it real, sorry if I offend, but it is what it is. Grant it, it could be the geographical location, but I can't put that on any general area. These characters could be ANYWHERE.
In the midst of it all I have found quite a few that put a smile on my face and warmed my heart. It was also surprising to find that the number of men participating in my impromptu interviews outweighed the women. The women were for some reason at a loss for words. When does that really happen? Especially when there is an opportunity for them to truly voice their thoughts and opinions openly without being judged. Perhaps the reticence was a result of the ages, who knows.
I am always elated when GOD is first and foremost in someones life. I extended my gratitude to those I spoke with, because oftentimes in this era, many do not attend church or have never set foot in a church outside of a funeral or wedding. I felt blessed while listening to them speak so passionately about GOD and how they hoped their ideal mate would also share the same thoughts and feelings.
The importance of family was addressed. Not just both individuals in a relationship wanting to start their own, but also being there for other family members when needed. Not to have them interfere, but offering support when able to, without the family constantly being dependent upon them.
Though I have read a number of articles which put the men on blast for always looking at the physical attributes of the female before considering anything else and if propositioned they would choose to lay with a female first and vice versa for that matter. I think we all at some point in time have desired to be with someone based upon 'animal magnetism' ha ha. I chuckle; however it was quite refreshing to discover the views of those involved in the discussion differed.
Several men acknowledged that while they may be physically attracted to a beautiful woman; a woman that can stimulate them mentally is far more fascinating and attractive and the rest will come.
Several women advised that while they adore that P-H-Y-N-E man and want to be treated as an equal, they don't want a man that they can walk all over or manipulate. They desire their man to be head of the household, as he should be.
I know there are some that may state ' I make my OWN money, I don't need a man!' Keep in mind this is not that session. We can save that for another time.
Over all our discussions were of substance. As the conversations deepened and the comfort level grew, there were many things shared. Some things were kept PG & PG13. Some took it to the R-rated/X-rated level. None the less it was discovered that our young people are grounded and though they may slip here and there, they regain control and focus on what's right. So many of us should be proud and thankful, because MY generation has done a great job in setting the bar.
The Skin I'm In
Now I must preface this by saying I am exposed to so many individuals with a multitude of personalities. Quite a few of them are in their early to late 20's. I might add, I'm not always pleased with what I encounter. You have your classic, pants hanging off their butts (both male & female), pajamas in public with bedroom slippers, breasts hanging out, dirty shirts, cursing, wreaking of last weeks alcohol benge, sex, cigarettes and down right disrespectful. Just keeping it real, sorry if I offend, but it is what it is. Grant it, it could be the geographical location, but I can't put that on any general area. These characters could be ANYWHERE.
In the midst of it all I have found quite a few that put a smile on my face and warmed my heart. It was also surprising to find that the number of men participating in my impromptu interviews outweighed the women. The women were for some reason at a loss for words. When does that really happen? Especially when there is an opportunity for them to truly voice their thoughts and opinions openly without being judged. Perhaps the reticence was a result of the ages, who knows.
I am always elated when GOD is first and foremost in someones life. I extended my gratitude to those I spoke with, because oftentimes in this era, many do not attend church or have never set foot in a church outside of a funeral or wedding. I felt blessed while listening to them speak so passionately about GOD and how they hoped their ideal mate would also share the same thoughts and feelings.
The importance of family was addressed. Not just both individuals in a relationship wanting to start their own, but also being there for other family members when needed. Not to have them interfere, but offering support when able to, without the family constantly being dependent upon them.
Though I have read a number of articles which put the men on blast for always looking at the physical attributes of the female before considering anything else and if propositioned they would choose to lay with a female first and vice versa for that matter. I think we all at some point in time have desired to be with someone based upon 'animal magnetism' ha ha. I chuckle; however it was quite refreshing to discover the views of those involved in the discussion differed.
Several men acknowledged that while they may be physically attracted to a beautiful woman; a woman that can stimulate them mentally is far more fascinating and attractive and the rest will come.
Several women advised that while they adore that P-H-Y-N-E man and want to be treated as an equal, they don't want a man that they can walk all over or manipulate. They desire their man to be head of the household, as he should be.
I know there are some that may state ' I make my OWN money, I don't need a man!' Keep in mind this is not that session. We can save that for another time.
Over all our discussions were of substance. As the conversations deepened and the comfort level grew, there were many things shared. Some things were kept PG & PG13. Some took it to the R-rated/X-rated level. None the less it was discovered that our young people are grounded and though they may slip here and there, they regain control and focus on what's right. So many of us should be proud and thankful, because MY generation has done a great job in setting the bar.
The Skin I'm In
Sunday, April 15, 2012
Down Low
Normal everyday lives led by men in their business suits working on Wall Street or just corporate America period. Blue collar workers...mechanics, fast food workers and restaurant owners just to name a few professions. These men are decorated with wedding bands and their vehicles further indicate they are married with children.
Down low - Secrets or that phrase "Straight" Black men that sleep with men. Before I go any further let me just say...the acronym 'DL' is not exclusive to Black Men; however it appears that the Black Male is more publicized in regards to such. This practice is seen across all ethnic groups.
In my reading one male indicates that 'Anyone can be had if the element is right'. Simple phrases such as "Wassup" or a certain look, wink or smile could lead to an interest in another man, which is unknown to the female. Code of the 'DL' Brother is they have to be hard due to the stigma associated with it. Some are thought that most DL brothers have the thugged out look. Fitted ball cap, Timberland's and a team jersey of some kind including throwback jerseys. Bottom line ANY man could be a DL suspect. Not just the tall 6'5" brother built like Arnold Schwarzenegger (back in the day of course) resembling Idris Elba, Michael Ealy, LaRon Landry, Morris Chestnut and Lamman Rucker. Eye Candy for my Ladies and some men, let's be real.
Studies suggest 30 percent of all black bisexual men maybe infected with HIV and up to 90 percent of those men do not know they're infected. With these statistics it is imperative for a person to advise their partner of what their lifestyle is and what their past relationships have been. A woman should be proactive in looking out for themselves. Asking the right questions while making the right observation. Love and lust can be blind to the point where you don't see what is staring you in your face.
If you are married or in a relationship, keep in mind that men on the DL would prefer not to give up the lives they've built with the 'perfect' woman. Oftentimes even the 'perfect' woman is not willing to let the man on the DL go because of the embarrassment they feel they may face.
I've read that one of the signs of a man on the DL is that he spends a lot of time with the guys. I personally am not in total agreement with that, because it just could be 'He's just not that into you.' Food for thought.
So gentlemen I wonder how you would feel if your daughter was dating a guy and this guy was on the DL. How do you think you would react? This question is even for the man on the DL with his 'Perfect' family. Think about it long and hard...no pun intended. Same question is posed for the woman. There are women on the DL as well. Let's be fair.
~~Skin I'm In~~
Down low - Secrets or that phrase "Straight" Black men that sleep with men. Before I go any further let me just say...the acronym 'DL' is not exclusive to Black Men; however it appears that the Black Male is more publicized in regards to such. This practice is seen across all ethnic groups.
In my reading one male indicates that 'Anyone can be had if the element is right'. Simple phrases such as "Wassup" or a certain look, wink or smile could lead to an interest in another man, which is unknown to the female. Code of the 'DL' Brother is they have to be hard due to the stigma associated with it. Some are thought that most DL brothers have the thugged out look. Fitted ball cap, Timberland's and a team jersey of some kind including throwback jerseys. Bottom line ANY man could be a DL suspect. Not just the tall 6'5" brother built like Arnold Schwarzenegger (back in the day of course) resembling Idris Elba, Michael Ealy, LaRon Landry, Morris Chestnut and Lamman Rucker. Eye Candy for my Ladies and some men, let's be real.
Studies suggest 30 percent of all black bisexual men maybe infected with HIV and up to 90 percent of those men do not know they're infected. With these statistics it is imperative for a person to advise their partner of what their lifestyle is and what their past relationships have been. A woman should be proactive in looking out for themselves. Asking the right questions while making the right observation. Love and lust can be blind to the point where you don't see what is staring you in your face.
If you are married or in a relationship, keep in mind that men on the DL would prefer not to give up the lives they've built with the 'perfect' woman. Oftentimes even the 'perfect' woman is not willing to let the man on the DL go because of the embarrassment they feel they may face.
I've read that one of the signs of a man on the DL is that he spends a lot of time with the guys. I personally am not in total agreement with that, because it just could be 'He's just not that into you.' Food for thought.
So gentlemen I wonder how you would feel if your daughter was dating a guy and this guy was on the DL. How do you think you would react? This question is even for the man on the DL with his 'Perfect' family. Think about it long and hard...no pun intended. Same question is posed for the woman. There are women on the DL as well. Let's be fair.
~~Skin I'm In~~
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