Sunday, March 4, 2012

Corporate Pimps and Prostitution

Pimp - a person who solicits customers for a prostitute or brothel usually in return for a share of the earnings. One who controls the actions and lives off proceeds of one or more who work the streets.

We have the Pimps or 'Players' as some would like to be called and their profession otherwise known as 'The Game'. Then we have their Prostitutes otherwise known as 'Hustlers' or 'Gigolos' their profession...'WHORES ROAD, GET ME MY MONEY!'

Perhaps that last comment was a little harsh. It is what it is folks, reality. Now in comparison to some of Corporate America, leaning towards that financial industry of sales & procurement there is not much difference between them(Corporate America) and a pimp; hence the title Corporate Pimps & Prostitution.

Corporate America or their exec's want you to look like them, think like them, speak like them, act like them and dress like them. Do not have a mind of your own. Do not show any emotion. Just do as you're told and produce!! That takes me to the movie 'Pretty Woman'. Don't kiss on the lips, you'll fall in love. No emotion, no love lost.

I personally do not fit into that robotic mold. I am colorful in character and dress, though quite professional. I will not adopt the speech as it is meaningless. It lacks sincerity and thought. I was not born in YOUR, Corporate America's, likeness, so there will not be any resemblance.

You, Corporate America throw your weight around insisting that I dress as you do, in the boring Brooks Brothers Suits(black or gray only), white shirt only and by no means do you add a splash of color with perhaps a multi-colored tie. Black or Gray Only! No exceptions. Failure to adhere means you're dismissed without pay. This for some reason takes me to segregation. Water fountains labeled for 'Whites Only'.

You, Corporate America instruct us to say the same thing to everyone that crosses our paths during the work day. Do not deviate from the script given, doing so will result in a write up for insubordination, which will remain in your file.

You, Corporate America instruct us to sell someone a Jet Engine, knowing the consumer doesn't need or want this item. But its a mandatory sell to meet your goal. Failure to do so will result in you being replaced.

You, Corporate America instruct us not to care about the consumer. Treat them as a number. We just want their money....Number 2,245,218 please stand up! Caring about a client will result in a cut in pay.

Bottom line...be that Call Girl or Escort for Corporate America or be without just as a Pimp instructs his/her 'Pro' to go out and MAKE THAT MONEY.


~~Skin I'm In~~



Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Suicide, Listen to the Silent Voice

A twelve year old little girl takes her life for reasons only she and God are truly aware of. For those of us on the outside looking in we speculate. Horrible atmosphere at home, depression, social isolation, overwhelmed with being a preteen. Whatever the reason a life is lost and we cant get it back.

As a parent it imprisons my heart to think that a child's life is gripped with so much depression, etc. Their voice has been stifled by their peers, they are looked upon as different, weird, poor, nerdy and stupid. This may not be the case for all, but it is a reality for some. Children are cruel towards others and the words noted do not remotely touch the cruelty that is projected. Without the positive reinforcement from parents, guardians, extended family, teachers or mentors our children fade to black.

Some individuals feel that I am in my children's business TOO MUCH. Guess what it won't change. That's my job! I love my children and if it is perceived that I am too strict or I do not provide them with enough privacy. So be it. Anyway what privacy do you have as a child? I am ALL UP IN THE BUSINESS, I am the parent and that's how it will remain.

Suicide is the fourth leading cause of death in children ages 10-14, the third leading cause of death for those ages 15-24. These numbers are taken just a bit further. For those under the age of 15, there are 1-2 out of every 100,000 that commit suicide. For those 15-24 there are 11 out of every 100,000 that will take their own life. These numbers may seem minuscule to some, but 1 life diminished by suicide is 1 too many.

The voice of suicide has no gender or color preference. I will say the voice of suicide is selective in character. Therefore love your children, hug your children, have conversations with your children, listen to your children and hear what is NOT always said.

~~~~Skin I'm In~~~~

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Seeking The Different Flavors Of Wrong

Is there truly a Miss, Mrs. or Mr. Right? 
More of my random thoughts. 

Some may ask the question, "Why am I always choosing the wrong person to be in a relationship with?"  My question to that question is, "Are you sure you're not choosing the Right Wrong Person?"
Are we seeking different flavors of wrong, thinking that the wrongness is right, because we are dealing with demons within and gravitate to those with similar demons that compliment us?  Confusing huh?  Such is love.

One would think to seek the love of the person that knows how to give the gift of oneself without the expectation of something in return. However you must know yourself well enough to understand that gift, not reject the gift choosing the art of re-gifting.  Not only should we know ourselves, but learn what we want and what we don't want.  Perhaps stop being in love with the idea of being in love, falling in love with a facsimile thereof. 

We view him/her as our soul mate because we have shared an intimate connection prior to evaluating the future. Think about this, is the one you see as your soul mate your goal mate?  In other words, do you share common interests, common goals, chemistry and compatibility?  Do you have admiration and respect for him/her or are you just impressed by them? 

Keep in mind as you ponder...admiration is to regard with wonder; wherein being impressed is the act of drawing attention. A Mercedes or a Bentley Continental GT is impressive. A woman or man loving God, always smiling, working a full time job, a part time job, going to school part-time and holding it down at home for the family is to be admired!

~~~Skin I'm In~~~

Monday, January 16, 2012

Expressions of Self-Random Thoughts

Volcanic lava
Warm, overflowing and electric
Rising with the belief that each day will be better
Dreams awakened
By losing oneself in forever
The edge of morning is near
My soul is aching to be
Somewhere other than here

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Church or Chutch II

Scenario #1

Female high school graduate; hereby known as Sunny. Grows up being nourished in the church. Sunny encounters David, a young minister at a church convention. They share their experiences in Christ and over a span of 6 months they break bread, attend church fall in love and marry.  David was slotted to be in the area for approximately 8 months, so after his marriage to Sunny, he advised they were moving. Moving back to his home of record. Sunny was far from thrilled with this decision as this move would take her away from her family. Sunny expressed her opinion of the matter only to realize David had absolutely NO desire in hearing Sunny's opinion. David slapped Sunny advising her that she needed to be submissive. Being contrary was not an option. Sunny being young and naive agreed.

Scenario #2

Tasha raised in church. Grows up in a struggling household. Pays her way through college, moves away, finds a church home and is befriended by a young minister, hereby named Charles. Tasha and Charles spend endless days together; their relationship is no longer platonic and Tasha is pregnant. Tasha has been with no one else but Charles. Tasha advises Charles of the baby, Charles tells Tasha to get an abortion.  Arguments erupt because Tasha wants her baby. During these arguments it is disclosed that Charles is married to another member of the church. Charles' wife is in Afghanistan on her second tour and will be returning in 4 months.  Charles tells Tasha that he wants nothing to do with the baby and if she chooses not to abort then she will be raising the child on her own. Charles also advises Tasha that if she sheds any light as to who the child's father is, he will cause her bodily harm.

Two issues weigh heavily with these scenarios.
 1- Religion/Christian views on abortion &
 2-Christian women & domestic violence

Scenario #1
Some teachings would explain that spousal abuse should be dealt with by temporary separation in conjunction with church marriage counseling.  Marriage counseling somehow designed to bring forth a reconciliation.

--My question..are the church counselors knowledgeable enough in the cycle of domestic violence?

Scenario #2
The Bible states 'Thou shalt not kill' --Exodus 20:13
Surely our worth as a human being is not dependent upon how far we are in life.

--My question..as a minister, leader or teacher of God's word are you practicing what you preach or manipulating to oblige your act of cheating?

More to express at a later date.  In the meantime feel free to share your voice.

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Random 'Family' Thoughts

Family - defined many ways.
1- a basic social unit consisting of parents and children
2- any group of persons closely related by blood
3- all those considered descendants of a biologically related ancestor

The list goes on; but every one's view of family differs no matter how similar in meaning the dictionary determines.

What the dictionary does not provide detail on, is the FAMILY that just doesn't exist. Let me elaborate the ideal family, in my eyes only exists in fairy tales.  Father, Mother, Sister(s), Brother(s), doting grandparents, aunts and uncles. Minor arguments between Mother & Father, nothing earth shattering. You have the dog, cat, picket fence, 2 cars or perhaps the mini van for the soccer mom, parents that show for all of their children's extra-curricular events, children graduate from high school go off to college and come home on their breaks to two parents still in love with each other and their childhood home is still serene. 

Ah ha!! Let's get to the real deal. You have the 'Soul Food' family wherein family sleeps with another family members husband. Some of the family is quite affluent or they manage their money well while other members constantly have their hands out. Or you have the Osborne's, Whitney Houston/Bobby Browns, Lindsey Lohans & Brittney Spears of the world...I shouldn't have to elaborate any further with those examples.  Then we have the Family that Preys & Prays. Lets not forget the family that alienates. I guess in the dictionary whether it's Merriam Webster or Dictionary.Com, the definition for these examples would be DYSFUNCTIONAL.

I think the family that Alienates does just as much damage as the drug addictions & infidelity if not more.  When you start off in life experiencing family one way, adoring them and not wanting to trade your once known knowledge of family for anything in the world to always wondering 'Why?' you question yourself. Things like 'Why am I the last to know?' or 'What did I do to them to deserve this type of treatment?' or 'How come they no longer love me?'

It's a given that we all have a purpose.  God gives and takes away. However it is sometimes difficult to comprehend that he removes people from our lives in order for us to grow.  We need to nurture our seed and reap the benefits of new growth.

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

The Faces of Rich

Ghetto Rich
Primarily invested in depreciating assets i.e. cars, clothes and jewelry.

Scenario 1:
Young woman receives 80k when her father passes away and blows every penny on clothes, high end purses and shoes. The mother criticizes her daughter; however quiet as its kept the mother acts in a similar fashion. The mother receives a substantial sum as well. She opted to donate her Grandam to charity, which is fine; however she turns around and almost in the same breath leaves her health care profession without notice(idiot move), purchases a BMW M3, then decides that wasn't enough so she purchases an additional vehicle. Only the current years Saleen Mustang, please note the sarcasm.  

Okay, some may feel this isn't too extravagant.  It is when you are living in section 8 housing.  The money spent on the vehicles which lost a bit of their value as she drove them off the lot could have served as a sweet down payment on a home.  Depending on the state it could have paid for the home in full.  Bam! Investment made! I will recognize this woman for paying off the bills she had in collections. However in the end she was unable to maintain the vehicles. Couldn't afford the maintenance much less gas. Not once was their a thought to set aside funds for a rainy day. No savings, no 401k....nothing. Just the notion of robbing Peter to pay Paul. A lot of us do that anyway. That's just what we do. Not only that she was no longer able to continue in the health care arena and is currently employed part-time at Walmart. The vehicles had to be sold and the proceeds used to pay off outstanding liens. 

Scenario2
The Entrepreneur also known as Hustle Man.
Hustle Man is doing big things. He walks around with the latest technology in his pocket but struggles to maintain active service.  Why? Because Hustle Man doesn't have a job! He'll tell you he's self employed and about to blow up! He's about to purchase a McDonald's franchise in an area that already has one every 2 miles. In an economy such as we have they have already started closing quite a few.

Hustle Man recently acquired 2-3 million dollars. This was a legit acquisition. He's decided he needs a house.  I agree. A home can be a sound investment. However why are you going to spend 1 million on a MONEY PIT? A home that needs repairs. Lots of repairs! You're trying to keep up with the 'Lil Wayne's, with ostentatious displays of your new found wealth. I can't give you the Jay Z status, because He is a Businessman. No where close to the Rockefeller, Vanderbilt, DuPont or the Rothschild families. Perhaps I should rank you with Mike Tyson, an entertaining fighter but not business savvy.

Nouveau Riche
Previously part of a lower socio economic rank

Scenario 3
The Goldsteins of America
Forgive me if the name strikes a nerve. It's the first name that came to mind for those that have worked for their wealth within the 20th-21st century. Those that have worked hard and knocked others out of the way in the process. Not caring about anyone but themselves. Feeling they are exempt from ALL normal policy and procedures and treating others like mere peasants. I can't even put you in the category of the Alec Baldwins, simmer down. 

Scenario 4
The man/woman who marries into 'Old Money'. Business savvy, picking up the tricks of the trade from the family adding their own ideas and methods creating quite the empire. Aware of the life struggles that we as humans go through and always willing to assist others, quite the humanitarian/philanthropist. The one that you encounter and have absolutely NO idea that they have billions.

Rich in Spirit
Those that make ends meet the majority of the time without complaints. Not needing anything and if they do, their faith in God carries them through. You have a roof over your head, food on the table and love in your heart. You do what you can within your power to help others.